Life is filled with many choices. Some are relatively easy to make like what to where, your favorite color, or what you want to eat for dinner (okay, maybe that last one isn’t so easy). Some choices, those life changing choices, are more difficult. Choices like what you want to be when your grow up,…
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If you find yourself sitting across from me in the therapy room, there’s a very good chance you will hear me say, “You can curse all you want in here. The only ‘swear word’ here is ‘should.’” By now some of my clients might think I have a personal vendetta against the word. In truth,…
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Perfectionism is the pursuit of “perfect” where anything less is failure. It requires constant judgement of oneself or others, and demands nothing less than 100%. It is living by a set of impossible standards. These standards might be self-imposed based on a belief that that’s what others want, imposed by others onto us, or imposed…
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Recently someone asked me, “How does counseling work?” It wasn’t until that question that I realized therapy is a rather mysterious experience. Sometimes it honestly seems like magic happens because its difficult to pinpoint what exactly creates lasting change and growth in therapy. The short, mechanical answer to the question, “How does therapy work?” is…
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When beginning therapy, you probably expect to receive a diagnosis. Sometimes, people even want one to better understand what they are going through. Though sometimes people fear a diagnosis and its potential impact on their life and relationships. What if I told you, you don’t have to have a diagnosis when you go to counseling?…
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You’ve decided to try counseling. The use of insurance is not for you (by choice or by circumstances), but you place a great value on counseling services. However, your wallet does not share that same value. Not to worry, there are affordable options out there for you. One place to look is at college campuses.…
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You’ve seen the cost of counseling and it might have been a hard pill to swallow. You have insurance, but have a high deductible, there are long wait times for therapists who take your insurance, or you don’t want to use insurance for mental healthcare. And yet, you’re hesitant to make that call and set…
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If you are asking the question, “would I benefit from counseling?” then the answer is yes. I personally believe that anyone can benefit from counseling. We are all human beings with worries, challenges, and struggles. We all hit tough times that we have difficulty navigating. Counseling can help…
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Heather is an Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who unites systemic therapy with philosophical concepts. She has interests in Couples therapy, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Veteran Couples/Caregivers/Family, Philosophical Counseling, Sex therapy, and how to live a good life. Learn more about her here
