A common fear in the dating world is whether you are being “too picky” or if you are “settling” when it comes to choosing a partner you will spend the rest of your life with. Sometimes, both fears are held at once. Whether you fear you are settling or being too picky, the fear is…
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Pages: 277 Ideal Reader: Everyone. Especially those who are interested in Stoic philosophy in general or as a philosophy of life, anyone seeking peace of mind and tranquility throughout their life, and those who wish to better manage their emotions. Ideal Issues: Managing Desires and negative emotions Interacting and relating to others Depression Anxiety Personal…
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Once you’ve discovered what trust is and how it works, you can then learn how to build trust in relationships. Hopefully examples from a classic Disney movie can help me explain how to build trust in another person. Please direct your attention to the movie Aladdin (or re-watch it to refresh your memory). There are…
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Often I see couples and individuals coming in and saying, “We want to rebuild trust” or “I want to be able to trust them again/more.” However, frequently these clients do not fully understand what they are actually asking for. When confronted with the question of “how do you think you do that?” or “what does…
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Stoic Week 2019 Saturday, October 12th, 2019 Theme: Resilience: Resilience and Preparation for Adversity Stoic resilience is not about being an emotionless rock unaffected by the world around oneself. Unfortunate things will befall the Stoic, however they will not be overly emotionally reactive when these things occur. This is not a natural response. You are…
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Stoic Week 2019 Friday, October 11th, 2019 Theme: Emotions: Values and the Passions Our judgments of things harm us (and our relationships with others) more than the things themselves. We are more to blame than what is outside ourselves, however it is best to accept things as they are, attributing no blame to self or…
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Stoic Week 2019 Thursday, October 10th, 2019 Theme: Community: Relationships with Other People and Society Morning Reflection: Affection for others is part of our nature; beginning in the family we are born into and expressed to others as we age. This affections can be directed toward ourselves and flows outward to others so that we…
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Stoic Week 2019 Wednesday, October 9th, 2019 Theme: Virtue: Clarifying Your Values When we say virtue, we do not mean virginal or chaste or however its mostly interpreted today. Instead, virtue can be understood as the qualities a person possesses (and will express) that enable us to lead a happy life (you know, one according…
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Stoic Week 2019 Tuesday, October 8th, 2019 Theme: Happiness: The Goal of Life Alright, so I really wanted to stay with the format I had on day one of Stoic Week, but with a topic like “happiness” the morning, midday, and evening meditations and exercise all kind of blend together (in my head and in…
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Stoic Week 2019 Monday, October 7th, 2019 Theme: Progress Reflecting on this morning’s meditation: Every day provides us with the opportunity to make progress in virtue and movement toward happiness, freedom from passions, and serenity. So long as we make progress toward virtue, no matter how small, the day was worth it, and was not…
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Heather is an Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who unites systemic therapy with philosophical concepts. She has interests in Couples therapy, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Veteran Couples/Caregivers/Family, Philosophical Counseling, Sex therapy, and how to live a good life. Learn more about her here
