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BOOK REVIEW: A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy by William B. Irvine

Pages:  283 Ideal Reader: Everyone.  Especially those bothered by negative emotions, searching for peace of mind, are bullied or insulted frequently, or who are looking for a guided way to live their life. Ideal Issues:   Being insulted Depression Grief or Bereavement Anxiety Negative thinking Dealing with change and transitions in life Facing personal hardship Feeling…
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How to Make Difficult Choices

Life is filled with many choices.  Some are relatively easy to make like what to where, your favorite color, or what you want to eat for dinner (okay, maybe that last one isn’t so easy).  Some choices, those life changing choices, are more difficult. Choices like what you want to be when your grow up,…
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How to live without expectations - Stoicism

How to Live Without Expectations

If you find yourself sitting across from me in the therapy room, there’s a very good chance you will hear me say, “You can curse all you want in here.  The only ‘swear word’ here is ‘should.’” By now some of my clients might think I have a personal vendetta against the word. In truth,…
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Love’s Evolution in Relationships

I see many couples and individuals who come to me saying things like, “the spark is gone in our marriage,” “I love him, but I’m not ‘in love with him’’, or “my feelings for her have changed over the years.”  If this resonates with you, you are not alone. In fact, these kinds of feelings…
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Love Like Cooked Spaghetti

When I’m in a session with a couple or an individual who comes to me to work on a relationship issue, it is not uncommon for one of the early sessions to involve discussing the 5 Love Languages.  I know, you’re probably thinking, “what is it with this woman and her obsession with this book/idea?!?!”…
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BOOK REVIEW: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

BOOK REVIEW: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Pages:  244 Ideal Reader:  Sexually active individuals in long term relationships, Couples, Relationship therapists Ideal Issues:   Difficulty talking about sex/sexuality with significant other Differences in sexual desires within a relationship Wanting more passion and sex with a partner Changes in sex after marriage or children Desire to keep sexual passion alive in long term…
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Liberated by Love

Liberated by Love

It’s been a little while since I read Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages:  The Secret to Love That Lasts, though I talk about it frequently with couples and individual clients alike.  One quote from this book has been bouncing around my head lately.  That quote is, “True love always liberates” (p. 142).  I’ve…
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The Seven Principles that Make marriage work

BOOK REVIEW: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman & Nan Silver

Pages:  284 Ideal Reader:  Individuals and couples in any stage of a relationship including “single and looking” to “road test your relationship before making a permanent commitment,”  “committed and want to bolster and protect what you have,” partners facing drastic life changes and challenges, and couples whose relationship is in danger of ending. Issues Addressed:…
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How to Foster Intentional Love in Relationships

How to Foster Intentional Love in Relationships

Gary Chapman proposes that there is an expiration date on “obsessional love.”  This love is that “falling in love” feeling complete with warm fuzzies and a desire so spend every waking moment with one’s significant other.  It is charged with emotion and chemistry. However, as suggested in his book, The Five Love Languages: The Secrets…
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The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

BOOK REVIEW: The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman

Pages:  203 Ideal Reader:  Couples (dating, engaged, married) who wish to enhance or improve their romantic/intimate relationship.  Applicable to all couples regardless of length of relationship, sexual orientation, or relationship makeup. Ideal Issues Addressed: Disconnected from partner Spark is gone in the relationship Feeling like you and your partner are roomates Feeling unloved and unsure…
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