I see many couples and individuals who come to me saying things like, “the spark is gone in our marriage,” “I love him, but I’m not ‘in love with him’’, or “my feelings for her have changed over the years.” If this resonates with you, you are not alone. In fact, these kinds of feelings…
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When I’m in a session with a couple or an individual who comes to me to work on a relationship issue, it is not uncommon for one of the early sessions to involve discussing the 5 Love Languages. I know, you’re probably thinking, “what is it with this woman and her obsession with this book/idea?!?!”…
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Pages: 244 Ideal Reader: Sexually active individuals in long term relationships, Couples, Relationship therapists Ideal Issues: Difficulty talking about sex/sexuality with significant other Differences in sexual desires within a relationship Wanting more passion and sex with a partner Changes in sex after marriage or children Desire to keep sexual passion alive in long term…
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Pages: 284 Ideal Reader: Individuals and couples in any stage of a relationship including “single and looking” to “road test your relationship before making a permanent commitment,” “committed and want to bolster and protect what you have,” partners facing drastic life changes and challenges, and couples whose relationship is in danger of ending. Issues Addressed:…
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Gary Chapman proposes that there is an expiration date on “obsessional love.” This love is that “falling in love” feeling complete with warm fuzzies and a desire so spend every waking moment with one’s significant other. It is charged with emotion and chemistry. However, as suggested in his book, The Five Love Languages: The Secrets…
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We all have expectations on how our relationships with others are supposed to work. However, the reality is that our expectations are very rarely met. Things beyond our control impact our relationships with others such as stress from work, different upbringings, cultural beliefs and values, and personality differences. These can all interfere with our expectations…
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Recently someone asked me, “How does counseling work?” It wasn’t until that question that I realized therapy is a rather mysterious experience. Sometimes it honestly seems like magic happens because its difficult to pinpoint what exactly creates lasting change and growth in therapy. The short, mechanical answer to the question, “How does therapy work?” is…
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You’ve decided to try counseling. The use of insurance is not for you (by choice or by circumstances), but you place a great value on counseling services. However, your wallet does not share that same value. Not to worry, there are affordable options out there for you. One place to look is at college campuses.…
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You’ve scoured the internet, asked friends, family members, doctors, and that nice middle aged lady at Kroger who was eavesdropping on your conversation in the frozen food section gave you a referral to a therapist. You think you’ve found a therapist you’d like to see but when you check their fees per session you feel…
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You’ve seen the cost of counseling and it might have been a hard pill to swallow. You have insurance, but have a high deductible, there are long wait times for therapists who take your insurance, or you don’t want to use insurance for mental healthcare. And yet, you’re hesitant to make that call and set…
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Heather is an Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who unites systemic therapy with philosophical concepts. She has interests in Couples therapy, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Veteran Couples/Caregivers/Family, Philosophical Counseling, Sex therapy, and how to live a good life. Learn more about her here
