A common fear in the dating world is whether you are being “too picky” or if you are “settling” when it comes to choosing a partner you will spend the rest of your life with. Sometimes, both fears are held at once. Whether you fear you are settling or being too picky, the fear is…
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Once you’ve discovered what trust is and how it works, you can then learn how to build trust in relationships. Hopefully examples from a classic Disney movie can help me explain how to build trust in another person. Please direct your attention to the movie Aladdin (or re-watch it to refresh your memory). There are…
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Stoic Week 2019 Friday, October 11th, 2019 Theme: Emotions: Values and the Passions Our judgments of things harm us (and our relationships with others) more than the things themselves. We are more to blame than what is outside ourselves, however it is best to accept things as they are, attributing no blame to self or…
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I see many couples and individuals who come to me saying things like, “the spark is gone in our marriage,” “I love him, but I’m not ‘in love with him’’, or “my feelings for her have changed over the years.” If this resonates with you, you are not alone. In fact, these kinds of feelings…
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When I’m in a session with a couple or an individual who comes to me to work on a relationship issue, it is not uncommon for one of the early sessions to involve discussing the 5 Love Languages. I know, you’re probably thinking, “what is it with this woman and her obsession with this book/idea?!?!”…
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It’s been a little while since I read Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, though I talk about it frequently with couples and individual clients alike. One quote from this book has been bouncing around my head lately. That quote is, “True love always liberates” (p. 142). I’ve…
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Pages: 284 Ideal Reader: Individuals and couples in any stage of a relationship including “single and looking” to “road test your relationship before making a permanent commitment,” “committed and want to bolster and protect what you have,” partners facing drastic life changes and challenges, and couples whose relationship is in danger of ending. Issues Addressed:…
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Gary Chapman proposes that there is an expiration date on “obsessional love.” This love is that “falling in love” feeling complete with warm fuzzies and a desire so spend every waking moment with one’s significant other. It is charged with emotion and chemistry. However, as suggested in his book, The Five Love Languages: The Secrets…
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Pages: 203 Ideal Reader: Couples (dating, engaged, married) who wish to enhance or improve their romantic/intimate relationship. Applicable to all couples regardless of length of relationship, sexual orientation, or relationship makeup. Ideal Issues Addressed: Disconnected from partner Spark is gone in the relationship Feeling like you and your partner are roomates Feeling unloved and unsure…
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Heather is an Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who unites systemic therapy with philosophical concepts. She has interests in Couples therapy, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Veteran Couples/Caregivers/Family, Philosophical Counseling, Sex therapy, and how to live a good life. Learn more about her here
